Tuesday, May 6, 2008

10 DON’Ts WHEN DEALING WITH A NEW ‘CATCH’

So florida finally succeeded in taggin me, am not sure I even know what it means but will defianately do something about it, just wondering how I can be truthful while maintaining my anonymity status …..lol

So you finally have a new catch, what shouldn’t you do?

1 .Please people, the first thing you need to know is you should get rid of all those relationship advice you either have heard or read, it messes things up, so don’t number one is FORGET the relationship jargons you gathered previously or better still apply wisdom.


2. Don’t you start playing hard to get again after you ve said YES, leave yourself to enjoy the flow, laugh all you want, call when you feel like it, fart if you want, you are asked out on a date? Go if you have the time, enjoy it, feel free to tell your likes and dislikes, have Fun, and enjoy it while you have it.


3. Don’t forget that ones a person genuinely likes you and or your personality they will keep hanging around you, they disappear only when you don’t suit their need ( they may be looking for a fucc buddie….borrowed term from Soupasexy, lol)


4. Don’t appear desperate please, forget all the factors considered, let the relationship decide for itself if its has come to stay or not ( you do this by doing all what No. 2 says, the guy or gal decides if you are what they want or not and its best if they did that on time, it saves you the hassles of hanging on for unnecessary long period of time say 3month and above)


5. Don’t compromise or become overtly agreeable to things you don’t like so as to keep him or her in the early days of a relationship, you might end up having to deal with this always.


6.Don’t bare your baggage yet, you know telling how badly you been dealt with by the male or female folks? Please leave this out until the faith of the relationship is determined.


7. Don’t play dumb here, find out if this person has an existing significant other, snoop if you have to, and remember a guy or gal that cheats on a significant other to be with you will definitely cheat on you to be with another, in fact you they may want you just for distraction.


8. again, don’t play dumb, call at all possible odd times to substantiate 7 above, don’t accept the ‘ mama says no guys or gals in the house’ line, it’s a line from the ‘playing’ booklet, don’t fall for it !


9. Don’t ignore you intuition here, don’t ignore warnings from friends, if 89 people from your 100 fans is of the opinion he or she is bad , plzzzzzzzz be on your guard


10. Don’t mix it up, ones someone is right for you, you definitely will know, somehow you did feel right about them, it’s that simple, in your heart of hearts, you probably know when you are wrong or right, just might not be ready to accept it ...yet.

Cheers,
Ms.emotions

60 comments:

Anonymous said...

gal, 3 is def true, been there, done that, i know it!!!
and am first...yippeee!!!!!

uNWrItten* said...

gosh i thought i would be first...
lol
great advice dearie..:)

ShadeCrown said...

THIRD....
feeling the points as always! really good advice

onydchic said...

word. Especially on the acting desperate/forming too much thing. It's not cute. At all.

AJIKE said...

ok....interesting!..ild keep this in mind!!!!

Nice post!

How are u?

AJIKE said...

ok....interesting!..ild keep this in mind!!!!

Nice post!

How are u?

Joy Akut said...

well written girl....
but i think a girls got to let herself get as close as possible yet with so much mystery. it keeps the fella on his feet wondering what direction shes going at next and trying to keep her happy.

same time, you agree to be a couple, then let yourself go and grab the most fun.

Jinta said...

"fart if you want"

i disagree. do not fart. men see your bum as a work of art and not a shit factory. do not fart!

Yankeenaijababe said...

I love number 10 the best. Ya so right.

Rebirth said...

well-said.... thanx for d advice.....

desperate lady said...

na lie........me i will act desperate shuooooo, no time 4 pretence joo.........lol k not all that desperate but at least a lil e.g wear a push up bra 4 d date, dnt wear panties(dat doesnt mean u shud open ur nyash n fuck o, it just helps ur nyash jiggle well)

i dnt agree with d snoopin part o.....well i may snoop but i dont think it's a good idea, like wut if he sees u snooping? aint that a turn off?

fart infront of him? girl u dnt knw wut ur talkin about.......fart? hehehehe no wayyyyyy...maybe ur fart smells like vanilla.....as 4 me, i doubt if d guy wud survive it.

Ms. emmotions said...

nima divine - u go gal, congrats on ur first position ...lol

unwritten- howdy? ok, worry not, betta luck next time

sha - hello gal, howdy?

onydic - thanx gal, howdy?

ajike - good ! be sure u remember and hop u are doing gr8

fantasy queen - u couldnt have said it better

jinta - yes ooooo, forget that gist abeg !

yankeenaijachick - good, so how are u gal?
funms - u re very welcome

DL - lmao , i see afrobabe is doing a thorough job .....

Anonymous said...

Nice post but for me i will not be using it anywhere...

Flourishing Florida said...

my dear, u know i can't forget how u helped me @ d start of my relationship with my man, wen i was so fazed & worried. ur advises r always useful. they make more sense as each day goes by. keep it up, love. u have a gift here

LG said...

anoda well written post, how many star make i give u (lol)

*how u?*

In My Own Words said...

u really r a relationship counselor...but snooping does not always yield what u think. he may have nothing to hide and catch u snooping...not good

Nigerian Drama Queen said...

good advice!! i learned the hard way that once you've said yes, its prolly not a good idea to play games in general. Ah, you live and learn

QMoney said...

Yup,i soooo totally agree wit #5,infact throughout the rel self,i dont tink one should be overtly agreeable cos u still have a lifetime ahead wen u wont have a "choice"
as for #6,if u bare ur baggage,d man will FLEE,trust me on dat.av seen it happen a number of times!!
Hmmmm,DL,i agree with #8 oh,wat if his real babe is jus doin 1yr masters or on training and he jus wants to come and "chop and clean mouth",snoop all u can oh.one 32 yr old guy once told my friend he dint wanna take her to his house cos he doesnt want dem knowin too many girls attached with him.imagine!!!!
As for #10,yes oh.av seen people realize he has a 5yr old relationship or jus started actin up a lot cos he manage to fucc once or twice and they are still holdin on/hoping its a phase!!LET IT GO!!

Ps:so if #1 is saying 4get all d "relationship advice",y do we have 10here??*wink,wink*

Anonymous said...

you right!!forget the relationship jargons!!!true word!

Eve said...

lovely. i agree wt u totally. crazy to act hard to get after u ve been gotten

Femi Adeyemi said...

haven't been with a new catch for a while so i guess the don'ts can't apply to me..LOL

anyways you've officially been tagged..Pls see my blog for rules and stuff..thanks

take good care

Zayzee said...

thanks for the advice

Jayn Sean said...

Girl..i really need to memorise this. Mind if i print it all out?

Very good.

How you doing babes?

dejanae said...

definitely a good list

Eb the Celeb said...

how do you know when your intuition is syking you out and based solely on how terrible all pat men have been to you and lead you to not give the new guy a chance or worrying that they are the same?

anonymous gal(retired blogger) said...

great points.but then i trust u...ever thjot of writin a book?

Flourishing Florida said...

i support anon. gal o. u should think abt doing a book.

Afronuts said...

Ms the love doctor!

LOL...You been counselling peeps with screwed up relationships?

Ms. emmotions said...

@ be silent – sure u wont gal, u are way past this stage,
So how are u guys doing by the way?

@florida – thanx dear, I know for sure u are havin fun with boo
Cos I see u all smiles these days…lol

@ig - how about all the stars?
I dey o thanx, howdy urself?

@ in my own words – for the very start, I ve established and
Knw for a fact there are subtle snoopy ways ..lol

@nigeriandamaqueen - no, not a gud idea dearie, but then
We all learn one way or the other right?
Howdy?

@qmoney - he he he – u so are very naughty gal
Lol

@pink-satin – ehen , u said so oo..lol
Howdy gal?

@ eve – hello evy, glad u are agreein gal

@the genius within – prayin for a new catch for u right about now !
Lol

@ uzezi – ms. Emotions greats you dear

@jaybabe …..how are those lovly kids doing ?

@dejanae – thanx dear, howdy?

@ eb the celeb – hullo preety, u know there is wat
Is called heart of hearts, ur inner space,
U know that place where u seek peace when
All fails? Yes, that’s where u did get the truth, it’s a
A bit tricky but belive me , it works like magic

Sherri said...

compromise is what females are expected to do to keep a man.
compromising is settling for less and less..
compromising ur values, opinion chips away at a woman's essence.

the result is less of a woman and only suitable for less than a man!


thx sweerie for ur love,
u 're precious.

SOLOMONSYDELLE said...

I am supposed to be updating, but came here to read and got a good one! =)

How body?

Naija Sutra said...

i agree with your number 7 so much

yes, we sometimes want to have fun and flirt out there and not inform the person that we are in a relationship. i mean there is no sign on our forehead that says we are in a relationship or not.

guerreiranigeriana said...

i'm with jinta....do not fart!!!...hahaha...and please defecate at your own place...otherwise, good post...

tobenna said...

Tell us a bit about yourself Ms. Emotions. Personal experiences.
You seem to sound like a 'been there, done that' kinda lady.
Pray tell?

Afrobabe said...

So basically what no 2 is saying is once you have said yes, you can shag abi>???

I gbadun that rule oh...

soupasexy said...

lol @ afro..u and shaging sef, gosh i wanna be like u..lol

those rules are the ish...i agree on the snooping. check his phone, email errthing for any link of wahala. a girl's gotta know ryt?
nice one girl!

chichi said...

beauitful post; uhmm... im guilty of certain thing u gve a 'no-no' too tho!lol

thnx 4 coming by. x

will hit u up 4 sum one on one; if i av d liver!! lol

Zayzee said...

someone needs to update jare. i need new advice

Smaragd said...

so i finally decide to drag my lazy ass here after seeing u practically everywhere (apparently we have thesame blog route..lol) and it's like reading up on dear aunty abby, only u r more realistic and less judgemental!

i'm impressed!

next issue pls? *batting eyelashes*

TheAfroBeat said...

LMAO @ #8! So thaaat's the story these days! I'm feeling your #2, always advisable to have as much fun where possible because the genuine no-holds-barred "i can tell you whatever i want because we're just getting to know each other so there isn't much at stake" type fun doesn't always last.

Thanks for the tips! How've you been?

Unknown said...

Your royal highness (Queen of emotions),
I ventured into your specialist subject this week in my latest post. Meant to be a one-off but maybe once in a while... Breeze by if you can.

Love your commonsense approach. I like the bit about not playing games and not ignoring your intuition. You definitely fulfil a need out there.

flawsandall said...

im a lot of time into my once "new catch"...you shoulda posted this earlier...lol..oh well for future references

Afrobabe said...

update babes...haba, u tired of all our issues already???

I get small problem oh..need help asap...

Edirin said...

im so with you on number 1..my last relationship, i wanted to impress the girl, i took al sorts of advice, to this then do that, ended up spoiling things,im sure i cudda done a better job, using my own brain

how far babes, an update is needed here

James Tubman said...

ok

get rid of everyone's relationship advice but mine lol (and yours)

this is a list i have to read a few times in order to really commit it to memory

i like your style

and i feel that the best thing to do is to stay focused on what you have in common

and choose someone who is nice and not mean and immoral

nice you can work on

mean and evil are traits that you will eventually face in in the future

LG said...

just checking up on u gurl,
hope u r doing gr8t

Anonymous said...

just to say that if you follow all 10 of these and he slips away, it was probably NOT meant to be. Yea, sometimes, love is not enuf. Don't beat urself up over it. And NEVER revisit the relationship again to analyse where you went wrong again and again. Analysis Paralysis.....

O'Dee said...

All ya advice here r true.

4getting a d r'ship jargon, n bringing old baggage, not playing hard 2 get aftr saying yes... All true.

I must say I had to attend marriage counseling while in 9ja

Chris Ogunlowo said...

Thanks for this post ;)

Savvy Dreamer said...

u r soooo on the money!!!

Aphrodite said...

I had left a comment here before but i cant find it.
Anyway, update now... e don tay o

anonymous gal(retired blogger) said...

Earth to emotions,ding ur blog needs to be updated.

Naija Chickito said...

Hey babes. How you dey?

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Kemmie said...

Spot on! Tagged you on my last post (25.05)...sorry....LOL! Rock on!

Miz Arkitect said...

nicely written !!!

doll (retired blogger) said...

I totally agree.....100% i agree to every word...

134ElitZ Magazine said...

very well said my dear...i totally concurr..mehn...guyz will not kill us..phewww!

Lady said...

THIS WAS A LOVELY READ!!!!!!!! 10/10
P.S:XOXO