merry xmas and a prosperous 2008 to u all.
its less than 24 hours to xmas and everybody is already in the holiday/xmas mood. lagos is as busy as i have always remembered it to be. its time to rejoice and be merry. you all wil agree wit me that not all that celebrated the last xmas is alive to celebrate this one. we have so many things to be thankful to God for, that we are alive is one of them, not just that, that you have the good health to celebrate this season is another reason to be thankful.
alot of us drew up a list of things we wish to achieve at the begining of this year yeah? how many of those things were we able to achieve? i know this question is sure to put a lot of people in a bad mood, but i have good news for u, cheer up and be merry for God has not forgotten u, am not trying to be spiritual here or anything, but i really must say this, God has said in his words that he will perfect that which concerns you this 2008! u see how blessed u are?
forget those things u tot would have come to u this year, for 2008 is a year u will never forget in a hurry, why? cos God is going to perfect his plans for u and urs.
i think this will be my last post for the year,am not sure though, but if it happens to be my last for the year, pls do come back january 3rd 2008 for some emotional entertainment !
am out of here !
once again, merry xmas and a prosperous 2008 to ya al
Monday, December 24, 2007
Monday, December 17, 2007
IS SEX ENOUGH?
Its 7am on a Monday morning, as I sit to look at my ‘to do’ list I can’t but pray fervently for the holidays to come. I look forward to those quiet mornings when I don’t have o set my alarm to 5am or rush out to face the hectic Lagos traffic. Enough of the self pity and let’s move on to today’s biz. By the way, hope you all are doing great and had a great weekend cos I sure did.
I want to thank all of you that took your time to read thru the last post and your honest opinions and comments.
You can call this a continuation of the last post,
I want to set the record right by stating that SEX is NOT always enough to make a good relationship. My last post was just to place emphasis on the importance of a good sex in a relationship and not to lead people to believe that just sex or good sex guarantees a good relationship. From the comments I got on that post, I think I may have mislead some of you to believe that sex is the only thing that keeps a relationship going.
I want to define sex and good relationship for the purpose of this post.
SEX: this is the act of love making between two people that are in love or feels something other than lust for each other.
GOOD RELATIONSHIP: this is the relationship between two adults that have marriage on their mind though they may not have proposed yet.
Now, I need you all to understand that at all times, the relationship I refer to is as defined above.
I am an African and as such place much importance on marriage. This is not to say that marriage must become a do or die affair, but marriage should be grabbed when it’s within our reach. We all know that these days, its hard to find somebody we can love and who will also bw willing to reciprocate our love, in other words, it’s hard to build a good relationship and remain in such relationship till it reaches its expected end which in this case is marriage or something close to it. Make no mistakes, I am aware that not all relationships leads to marriage, but please have it at the back of your mind that at all time, I Ms. Emotions believes that ‘this’ relationship should lead to marriage (grins) but don’t kill yourself if it dose not, just move on.
i really don’t know why sometimes, I have this weird idea that having sex is different from love making in a relationship. Just like “@ fantasy queen” had said in her comment on the last post, make up sex can be great yet the relationship it self is rotten. It’s in this kind of scenarios that I find myself believing that you don’t have sex in a good relationship, what you do or have is make love or love making.
Great sex is not enough to keep a relationship neither is it enough to make a relationship great. It is assumed that people get into relationships with some level of love or feelings no matter how small for each other. Based on this, it is expected that this couple do not engage in just sex, they make love, and you all will agree with me that love making has this binding force that tends to bring couples closer. Of course people have sex without necessarily having any emotional attachment to their partner, this is why I had gone ahead to define sex and relationship for the purpose of this post. Love making has powers of its own, it has this force that makes you to either re appraise that relationship or define it, it even makes you try analyzing your relationship.
Like I mention in my last post, Nigerian women find it difficult to enjoy love making, they almost do not take active part in the love making, I can imagine why a woman can be creative and take the lead in love making. I have this guy friend that is almost 35 years yet single, each time I bring up the issue of him not having a steady girlfriend let alone married, out of the blues, a naughty grin appears on his handsome face as he speaks of his many experience with our Nigerian women, “don’t mind these girls that can’t afford to be themselves, imagine you meet a girl, make your intentions for a steady relationship known and when you get down to making love she turns into an ice maiden. Look, I have had to try on several occasions to see if this will change rather it gets worst, and you know me now, how am I supposed to be in a relationship wit a girl I might end up marrying and always go out for sexual fulfillment? ‘’
This is what my friend keeps saying each time the issue of him being single comes up. This has made me understand why most relationship becomes stagnant. When a man can not derive pleasure with his spouse, he either moves on or remains while searching for a replacement and when this happens we say we say ‘he broke my heart’.
Sex alone is not enough to keep a relationship though, other things like trust, commitment, understanding each other, giving room for open communication, respect , gratitude amongst others are also needed.
You can’t keep your man or get a man to love you by giving him full dose of sex, you must have defined your relationship before hand and then with good sex and other relationship ‘ingredients ‘ you should have yourself a good relationship.
But don’t forget that if a relationship is not defined, you may apply all of the relationship ‘ingredients’ and yet you find your self messed up. Don’t go dating a man that has not in clear terms asked you to be his girlfriend with the intention of keeping him with great sex and all cos it won’t work.
Wow! I have to go back to work now before I get a query from by boss lol.
As always, your comments are highly appreciated.
Compliment of the season to you all.
Ms. Emotions
I want to thank all of you that took your time to read thru the last post and your honest opinions and comments.
You can call this a continuation of the last post,
I want to set the record right by stating that SEX is NOT always enough to make a good relationship. My last post was just to place emphasis on the importance of a good sex in a relationship and not to lead people to believe that just sex or good sex guarantees a good relationship. From the comments I got on that post, I think I may have mislead some of you to believe that sex is the only thing that keeps a relationship going.
I want to define sex and good relationship for the purpose of this post.
SEX: this is the act of love making between two people that are in love or feels something other than lust for each other.
GOOD RELATIONSHIP: this is the relationship between two adults that have marriage on their mind though they may not have proposed yet.
Now, I need you all to understand that at all times, the relationship I refer to is as defined above.
I am an African and as such place much importance on marriage. This is not to say that marriage must become a do or die affair, but marriage should be grabbed when it’s within our reach. We all know that these days, its hard to find somebody we can love and who will also bw willing to reciprocate our love, in other words, it’s hard to build a good relationship and remain in such relationship till it reaches its expected end which in this case is marriage or something close to it. Make no mistakes, I am aware that not all relationships leads to marriage, but please have it at the back of your mind that at all time, I Ms. Emotions believes that ‘this’ relationship should lead to marriage (grins) but don’t kill yourself if it dose not, just move on.
i really don’t know why sometimes, I have this weird idea that having sex is different from love making in a relationship. Just like “@ fantasy queen” had said in her comment on the last post, make up sex can be great yet the relationship it self is rotten. It’s in this kind of scenarios that I find myself believing that you don’t have sex in a good relationship, what you do or have is make love or love making.
Great sex is not enough to keep a relationship neither is it enough to make a relationship great. It is assumed that people get into relationships with some level of love or feelings no matter how small for each other. Based on this, it is expected that this couple do not engage in just sex, they make love, and you all will agree with me that love making has this binding force that tends to bring couples closer. Of course people have sex without necessarily having any emotional attachment to their partner, this is why I had gone ahead to define sex and relationship for the purpose of this post. Love making has powers of its own, it has this force that makes you to either re appraise that relationship or define it, it even makes you try analyzing your relationship.
Like I mention in my last post, Nigerian women find it difficult to enjoy love making, they almost do not take active part in the love making, I can imagine why a woman can be creative and take the lead in love making. I have this guy friend that is almost 35 years yet single, each time I bring up the issue of him not having a steady girlfriend let alone married, out of the blues, a naughty grin appears on his handsome face as he speaks of his many experience with our Nigerian women, “don’t mind these girls that can’t afford to be themselves, imagine you meet a girl, make your intentions for a steady relationship known and when you get down to making love she turns into an ice maiden. Look, I have had to try on several occasions to see if this will change rather it gets worst, and you know me now, how am I supposed to be in a relationship wit a girl I might end up marrying and always go out for sexual fulfillment? ‘’
This is what my friend keeps saying each time the issue of him being single comes up. This has made me understand why most relationship becomes stagnant. When a man can not derive pleasure with his spouse, he either moves on or remains while searching for a replacement and when this happens we say we say ‘he broke my heart’.
Sex alone is not enough to keep a relationship though, other things like trust, commitment, understanding each other, giving room for open communication, respect , gratitude amongst others are also needed.
You can’t keep your man or get a man to love you by giving him full dose of sex, you must have defined your relationship before hand and then with good sex and other relationship ‘ingredients ‘ you should have yourself a good relationship.
But don’t forget that if a relationship is not defined, you may apply all of the relationship ‘ingredients’ and yet you find your self messed up. Don’t go dating a man that has not in clear terms asked you to be his girlfriend with the intention of keeping him with great sex and all cos it won’t work.
Wow! I have to go back to work now before I get a query from by boss lol.
As always, your comments are highly appreciated.
Compliment of the season to you all.
Ms. Emotions
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
good sex = good relationship
hullo daryns, howdy?
i have been really busy at work, you know year end and all, coupled with the target i have had to give myself in other to get my book completed at least first quarter of next near. yeah ! i have this relationship book am trying to put together but believe me it's not been easy coming out with something different from all the relationship solution books littered all over the place. am working on having something extraordinary, something either of the sexes can pick up at any time and then learn to move on in life and to expect better things when faced with broken relationships and a lot more.
so back to todays business, my assumption is there are no minors amongs my readers and if am wrong about this, please my dears, if u know u are below 18 years please skip this post as you may find some words or phrases offensive.
good sex = good relationship, good relationship = good sex
sex unknow to most of all is the basic ingredient for a good relationship. now read btw the lines ladies, good sex is one thing that keeps your relationship alive.
every woman should be in touch with her sexuality, most women throw away their sexuality for the "nice girl" tag. most women forget that a woman can be sexy and sensual while being sophisticated. its high time women took active part in sex rather than waiting to be serviced. i know of women that can't even initiate sex due to the fear of being termed loose. i mean i can' begin to imagine why a woman can not enjoy love making with her man or initiate the act itself.
i have always told my friends that a woman can actually enjoy sex just as much as a man enjoys it while keeping her relationship without losing her self respect. you can actually guide your man to bring you satisfaction. you should be creative in bed ladies, am not saying that sex is the only way to a good relationship, rather am saying that good sex is one the things that can't be left out if you have it in mind to make your relationship a good one.
men cherish women who can confidently take charge in bed while retaining her sophistication out of bed. so ladies, please get in touch with the sexual side of your existence, make your self desirable, put on your romantic garmet and put some life into that relationship or marriage ! but rememba, DO NOT practice unsafe sex o, very important.
on a lighter note
silence........
Smart Bukari…………………………..
Bukary is a servant boy who every day drinks the wine of his Boss and to cover up for that he puts water in the bottle to replace what he drank. But the Boss having suspicions as to the quality of the wine, decides to buy pastis (a French wine that changes colour if you add water). Bukary as usual, takes a mouthful and add water to replace what he drank.However, soon after he added water the pastis became milky. When the Boss came backed and noticed it, he was sure he had managed to nail Bukary as thief!!!
At that same moment Bukary realized he was in trouble and decided to go into the kitchen. The Boss told his wife that "Cherished, you will see, he will be obliged to acknowledge ". He shouted: "Bukary!".
Bukary answered: "Yes, Boss".
"Who drank my pastis?".
No answer.
The Boss reiterated his question: still no answer. Then the Boss went to find Bukary in the kitchen and says to him: "You insane or what? Why when I call you you say "yes boss" but when I ask you a question you don't answer me? "
Bukary retorted that "It is that boss, when you are in the kitchen there, you don't understand anything at all, except the name " Then to prove that Bukary lies, the Boss says to him: "You stay beside Madam, me I go in the kitchen, and you ask me a question ". Bukary accepted.
The Boss went in the kitchen and Bukary shouted: "Boss". He answered: "Yes, Bukary". Bukary continued: "Who goes at the maid bedroom when the Madam is not there? ". No answer. Bukary shouted again: "Boss, I say who made the maid pregnant?" No answer. Third time; "Boss, I say who made the maid pregnant?"
The Boss returns from the kitchen running and says "Bukary: It is true, you are right, when one is in the kitchen, one does not hear anything, only the name ".
cheers
i have been really busy at work, you know year end and all, coupled with the target i have had to give myself in other to get my book completed at least first quarter of next near. yeah ! i have this relationship book am trying to put together but believe me it's not been easy coming out with something different from all the relationship solution books littered all over the place. am working on having something extraordinary, something either of the sexes can pick up at any time and then learn to move on in life and to expect better things when faced with broken relationships and a lot more.
so back to todays business, my assumption is there are no minors amongs my readers and if am wrong about this, please my dears, if u know u are below 18 years please skip this post as you may find some words or phrases offensive.
good sex = good relationship, good relationship = good sex
sex unknow to most of all is the basic ingredient for a good relationship. now read btw the lines ladies, good sex is one thing that keeps your relationship alive.
every woman should be in touch with her sexuality, most women throw away their sexuality for the "nice girl" tag. most women forget that a woman can be sexy and sensual while being sophisticated. its high time women took active part in sex rather than waiting to be serviced. i know of women that can't even initiate sex due to the fear of being termed loose. i mean i can' begin to imagine why a woman can not enjoy love making with her man or initiate the act itself.
i have always told my friends that a woman can actually enjoy sex just as much as a man enjoys it while keeping her relationship without losing her self respect. you can actually guide your man to bring you satisfaction. you should be creative in bed ladies, am not saying that sex is the only way to a good relationship, rather am saying that good sex is one the things that can't be left out if you have it in mind to make your relationship a good one.
men cherish women who can confidently take charge in bed while retaining her sophistication out of bed. so ladies, please get in touch with the sexual side of your existence, make your self desirable, put on your romantic garmet and put some life into that relationship or marriage ! but rememba, DO NOT practice unsafe sex o, very important.
on a lighter note
silence........
Smart Bukari…………………………..
Bukary is a servant boy who every day drinks the wine of his Boss and to cover up for that he puts water in the bottle to replace what he drank. But the Boss having suspicions as to the quality of the wine, decides to buy pastis (a French wine that changes colour if you add water). Bukary as usual, takes a mouthful and add water to replace what he drank.However, soon after he added water the pastis became milky. When the Boss came backed and noticed it, he was sure he had managed to nail Bukary as thief!!!
At that same moment Bukary realized he was in trouble and decided to go into the kitchen. The Boss told his wife that "Cherished, you will see, he will be obliged to acknowledge ". He shouted: "Bukary!".
Bukary answered: "Yes, Boss".
"Who drank my pastis?".
No answer.
The Boss reiterated his question: still no answer. Then the Boss went to find Bukary in the kitchen and says to him: "You insane or what? Why when I call you you say "yes boss" but when I ask you a question you don't answer me? "
Bukary retorted that "It is that boss, when you are in the kitchen there, you don't understand anything at all, except the name " Then to prove that Bukary lies, the Boss says to him: "You stay beside Madam, me I go in the kitchen, and you ask me a question ". Bukary accepted.
The Boss went in the kitchen and Bukary shouted: "Boss". He answered: "Yes, Bukary". Bukary continued: "Who goes at the maid bedroom when the Madam is not there? ". No answer. Bukary shouted again: "Boss, I say who made the maid pregnant?" No answer. Third time; "Boss, I say who made the maid pregnant?"
The Boss returns from the kitchen running and says "Bukary: It is true, you are right, when one is in the kitchen, one does not hear anything, only the name ".
cheers
Friday, December 7, 2007
Sex Myths Exposed
MYTH
if a girl's hymen is broken, torn, or missing, she is not a virgin.
-OR-If a girl doesn't bleed during sex, she is not a virgin.
TRUTH
The hymen is a thin layer of skin that partially covers the vagina. Its purpose is to protect the vagina from bacteria and other harmful pathogens. This skin is very sensitive, and easily torn. Some girls are born without a hymen, and others have their hymens broken from sports, horseback riding, using tampons, or during manual sex. While the hymen is often broken during a girl's first time having intercourse, there is a high possibility that the hymen will already be torn before that, or not fully torn after that. Every girl is different. So, the presence or absence of a hymen is no indication of virginity.
If the hymen does break during sex, most often there will be some bleeding, because the tissue has blood vessels in it. However, some women don't experience bleeding, and of course their hymen may already be torn. Also, some bleed the first few times they have sex. So if she doesn't bleed, it doesn't necessarily mean she has already been devirginized.
MYTH
If a guy doesn't come, or ejaculate, during sex, there is no chance of pregnancy.
TRUTH
This method, called the withdrawal method, AKA pulling out, AKA coitus interrupts, is a totally ineffective method of pregnancy prevention. After a guy is aroused, and during sexual activity, pre-ejaculatory fluid, AKA precum, is secreted from the urethra. The purpose of this fluid is to neutralize the urethra so the sperm can survive. This fluid contains - you guessed it - SPERM! And as we all know, sperm can very well impregnate a woman. While the amount of sperm is considerably less than released during ejaculation, there is still a significant chance of pregnancy. Consider this: An average of 300 million sperm are released during ejaculation. If one tenth of that amount is released in the precum, that's still 30 million sperm, and it takes only ONE to get pregnant, so wrap it up boys! Another interesting fact: A girl who doesn't use protection during sex has a 90% chance of getting pregnant during the first year.
MYTH
If a girl has sex during her period; there is no chance of pregnancy.
TRUTH
theoretically, a girl will ovulate before her period, and during her period the egg will be shed from the uterus, so no egg, no pregnancy. However, this theory is highly unreliable, particularly during the teen years. Most teens have very irregular cycles because their bodies are still trying to regulate themselves. Even if a girl's period shows up at the same time each month, her ovulation could still be out of whack, so there's no way to tell when an egg will or will not be present. Not to mention, sperm can live five to seven days inside the vagina, thereby increasing the chance of pregnancy. So menstruation is by no means a safe time to have sex. The "rhythm method," or determining approximate times of ovulation, should to be used when TRYING to get pregnant, not when trying avoiding it.
MYTH
You can't get pregnant if it is your first time having sex.
TRUTH
There is absolutely no basis to this statement. Most girls have started their period before their first time having sex, which means they all ovulate. If the egg is there, and the sperm are there, there will always be a chance of pregnancy, whether it's the first time or the hundreth time.
MYTH
drinking lots of Mountain Dew will decrease sperm count, and thus prevent pregnancy, thanks to the coloring agent Yellow No. 5.
TRUTH
Yellow No 5 is a safe chemical, used for adding a yellow color to Mountain Dew, as well as many other food products. The chemical has no effect on sperm count, thus rendering it ineffective as a contraceptive. Even if it did lower your sperm count, you would still have sperm, and it only takes one to get pregnant.
MYTH
you can't get pregnant from anal sex.
TRUTH
Well, this one is partially true. You can't get pregnant directly from anal sex, because the anus has no connection to the uterus or fallopian tubes. However, sperm can very easily dribble out and make their way to the vagina, so there is a very real risk of pregnancy. Your best bet is to use a condom anyway.
MYTH
A girl who hasn't started menstruating can't get pregnant.
TRUTH
Nobody can predict when they will get their first period. A non-menstruating girl could be ovulating the very moment you have sex with her, but you would never know it, and neither would she since she hasn't had her first period yet.
MYTH
Two condoms are better than one.
TRUTH
NEVER use two condoms at the same time. Doing so will increase the friction upon the condoms, and greatly increase their chance of breaking.
MYTH If you use someone's birth control pills before having sex, you won't get pregnant.
TRUTH
For one thing, you shouldn't use birth control pills that haven't been prescribed to you. You could be allergic to the pills and cause damage to yourself. It is highly necessary to have a full gynecological exam before taking any kind of hormonal birth control. Secondly, birth control pills take a full MONTH to be at all effective, so one day and one pill won't help you at all.
MYTH
You can't get STDs or STIs from giving or receiving oral sex.
TRUTH
This is one of the most dangerous myths in existence. Any exposure to genitalia or body fluids puts you at risk for catching an STD. There are many STDs that can be transitted through oral sex, including genital herpes, genital warts (HPV), gonorrhea, hepatitis A, hepatitis B, chlamydia, canchoid, syphilis, internal parasite (amebiasis), and rarely, HIV. To prevent getting an STD from oral sex, you and your partner should get screened for STDs, and you should always use a condom or dental dam (a latex square or cut open condom) during oral sex. But of course, you can only catch an STD if your partner has one in the first place, so get tested!
MYTH
If you douche or go to the bathroom after sex, you will decrease the chance of pregnancy.
TRUTH
when it comes to douching, the opposite is true. Douching will actually push sperm farther up the vagina. Besides, by the time you make it to the bathroom, millions of sperm have already made their way through the vagina.
Urinating also has no effect on conception. Urine comes out the urethra, which is in no way connected to the vagina or uterus. However, it is a good idea to urinate before and after sex to get rid of any bacteria that could cause infection in the vagina.
MYTH
You can't get pregnant or catch an STD in a shower, bath, or pool.
TRUTH If a penis is inside the vagina, there is a risk of pregnancy and a risk of getting an STD, water or not. However, if a guy comes in a pool or bath but hasn't been inside you, there is basically no risk of pregnancy. Those little spermie guys can swim, but they aren't olympic athletes and won't survive in the water for very long. And of course, you can only catch an STD if your partner has one in the first place, so get tested!
MYTH the condition "blue balls" is something guys make up.
TRUTH
Blue balls, or painful vasocongestion, is actually a very real condition. It can also occur in women, but this is not as common. Vasocongestion occurs during arousal and blood flow increases to the genitals, exerting pressure on the blood vessels and surrounding tissue. After orgasm or ejaculation, the blood flow decreases and the pressure is released. But if orgasm or ejaculation doesn't occur, the pressure can cause pain or discomfort. This is not, however, a reason for a guy to coerce you into having or finishing sexual activity. Blue balls will neither kill nor maim a man.
i want to thank you all for your comments and ideas, i also want to reiterate that this blog's main focus is on relationship issues and ideas. readers are welcome to either contribute to or criticize any of the issues posted at any time.
thank you
if a girl's hymen is broken, torn, or missing, she is not a virgin.
-OR-If a girl doesn't bleed during sex, she is not a virgin.
TRUTH
The hymen is a thin layer of skin that partially covers the vagina. Its purpose is to protect the vagina from bacteria and other harmful pathogens. This skin is very sensitive, and easily torn. Some girls are born without a hymen, and others have their hymens broken from sports, horseback riding, using tampons, or during manual sex. While the hymen is often broken during a girl's first time having intercourse, there is a high possibility that the hymen will already be torn before that, or not fully torn after that. Every girl is different. So, the presence or absence of a hymen is no indication of virginity.
If the hymen does break during sex, most often there will be some bleeding, because the tissue has blood vessels in it. However, some women don't experience bleeding, and of course their hymen may already be torn. Also, some bleed the first few times they have sex. So if she doesn't bleed, it doesn't necessarily mean she has already been devirginized.
MYTH
If a guy doesn't come, or ejaculate, during sex, there is no chance of pregnancy.
TRUTH
This method, called the withdrawal method, AKA pulling out, AKA coitus interrupts, is a totally ineffective method of pregnancy prevention. After a guy is aroused, and during sexual activity, pre-ejaculatory fluid, AKA precum, is secreted from the urethra. The purpose of this fluid is to neutralize the urethra so the sperm can survive. This fluid contains - you guessed it - SPERM! And as we all know, sperm can very well impregnate a woman. While the amount of sperm is considerably less than released during ejaculation, there is still a significant chance of pregnancy. Consider this: An average of 300 million sperm are released during ejaculation. If one tenth of that amount is released in the precum, that's still 30 million sperm, and it takes only ONE to get pregnant, so wrap it up boys! Another interesting fact: A girl who doesn't use protection during sex has a 90% chance of getting pregnant during the first year.
MYTH
If a girl has sex during her period; there is no chance of pregnancy.
TRUTH
theoretically, a girl will ovulate before her period, and during her period the egg will be shed from the uterus, so no egg, no pregnancy. However, this theory is highly unreliable, particularly during the teen years. Most teens have very irregular cycles because their bodies are still trying to regulate themselves. Even if a girl's period shows up at the same time each month, her ovulation could still be out of whack, so there's no way to tell when an egg will or will not be present. Not to mention, sperm can live five to seven days inside the vagina, thereby increasing the chance of pregnancy. So menstruation is by no means a safe time to have sex. The "rhythm method," or determining approximate times of ovulation, should to be used when TRYING to get pregnant, not when trying avoiding it.
MYTH
You can't get pregnant if it is your first time having sex.
TRUTH
There is absolutely no basis to this statement. Most girls have started their period before their first time having sex, which means they all ovulate. If the egg is there, and the sperm are there, there will always be a chance of pregnancy, whether it's the first time or the hundreth time.
MYTH
drinking lots of Mountain Dew will decrease sperm count, and thus prevent pregnancy, thanks to the coloring agent Yellow No. 5.
TRUTH
Yellow No 5 is a safe chemical, used for adding a yellow color to Mountain Dew, as well as many other food products. The chemical has no effect on sperm count, thus rendering it ineffective as a contraceptive. Even if it did lower your sperm count, you would still have sperm, and it only takes one to get pregnant.
MYTH
you can't get pregnant from anal sex.
TRUTH
Well, this one is partially true. You can't get pregnant directly from anal sex, because the anus has no connection to the uterus or fallopian tubes. However, sperm can very easily dribble out and make their way to the vagina, so there is a very real risk of pregnancy. Your best bet is to use a condom anyway.
MYTH
A girl who hasn't started menstruating can't get pregnant.
TRUTH
Nobody can predict when they will get their first period. A non-menstruating girl could be ovulating the very moment you have sex with her, but you would never know it, and neither would she since she hasn't had her first period yet.
MYTH
Two condoms are better than one.
TRUTH
NEVER use two condoms at the same time. Doing so will increase the friction upon the condoms, and greatly increase their chance of breaking.
MYTH If you use someone's birth control pills before having sex, you won't get pregnant.
TRUTH
For one thing, you shouldn't use birth control pills that haven't been prescribed to you. You could be allergic to the pills and cause damage to yourself. It is highly necessary to have a full gynecological exam before taking any kind of hormonal birth control. Secondly, birth control pills take a full MONTH to be at all effective, so one day and one pill won't help you at all.
MYTH
You can't get STDs or STIs from giving or receiving oral sex.
TRUTH
This is one of the most dangerous myths in existence. Any exposure to genitalia or body fluids puts you at risk for catching an STD. There are many STDs that can be transitted through oral sex, including genital herpes, genital warts (HPV), gonorrhea, hepatitis A, hepatitis B, chlamydia, canchoid, syphilis, internal parasite (amebiasis), and rarely, HIV. To prevent getting an STD from oral sex, you and your partner should get screened for STDs, and you should always use a condom or dental dam (a latex square or cut open condom) during oral sex. But of course, you can only catch an STD if your partner has one in the first place, so get tested!
MYTH
If you douche or go to the bathroom after sex, you will decrease the chance of pregnancy.
TRUTH
when it comes to douching, the opposite is true. Douching will actually push sperm farther up the vagina. Besides, by the time you make it to the bathroom, millions of sperm have already made their way through the vagina.
Urinating also has no effect on conception. Urine comes out the urethra, which is in no way connected to the vagina or uterus. However, it is a good idea to urinate before and after sex to get rid of any bacteria that could cause infection in the vagina.
MYTH
You can't get pregnant or catch an STD in a shower, bath, or pool.
TRUTH If a penis is inside the vagina, there is a risk of pregnancy and a risk of getting an STD, water or not. However, if a guy comes in a pool or bath but hasn't been inside you, there is basically no risk of pregnancy. Those little spermie guys can swim, but they aren't olympic athletes and won't survive in the water for very long. And of course, you can only catch an STD if your partner has one in the first place, so get tested!
MYTH the condition "blue balls" is something guys make up.
TRUTH
Blue balls, or painful vasocongestion, is actually a very real condition. It can also occur in women, but this is not as common. Vasocongestion occurs during arousal and blood flow increases to the genitals, exerting pressure on the blood vessels and surrounding tissue. After orgasm or ejaculation, the blood flow decreases and the pressure is released. But if orgasm or ejaculation doesn't occur, the pressure can cause pain or discomfort. This is not, however, a reason for a guy to coerce you into having or finishing sexual activity. Blue balls will neither kill nor maim a man.
i want to thank you all for your comments and ideas, i also want to reiterate that this blog's main focus is on relationship issues and ideas. readers are welcome to either contribute to or criticize any of the issues posted at any time.
thank you
Thursday, December 6, 2007
THE EASIEST WAY TO SCARE THAT MAN AWAY
I have been blog surfing lately in the course of which I have come across lots of extremely nice blogs most of which I did like to include in my fav blogs but the problem is I can’t seem to figure out how to add them to my list. Can somebody pls help this poor gal on how to go about this? I feel so terribly old and dumb!
I have seen it happen so many times, I have read it in so many books, I have had it from so many mouths and the scary part of it is it actually works wonders. If you want to scare away your man, girls! Just go ahead and do any or all of these things listed below.
Of course there are relationships that you as a young lady know is not beneficial to you but then there are those ones you can do absolutely anything to keep or make it work out, every girl that’s 27+ definitely knows what am talking about here. If you have ever been in love then you also will understand most of the things am going to list below, they are things we do unconsciously when in love but unknown to most of us the easiest way to scare a man away.
1. Nag at every slightest opportunity you find
2. Always run yourself down by telling him nasty things about yourself, your family or your past relationships
3. ensure you ask him everyday if he still loves you or how much he loves you
4. Make him promise over and over again never to hurt you like your ex did.
5. Make crying your only way of getting through to him
6. Don’t allow him hang out with his male friends or have his usual sports session with his friends, each time he brings it up go on and go on about how you cant let him out of your sight for a min !
7. Call him incessantly, like 10 times a day
8. If you use to be very fashionable when you met, lose your fashion sense!
9. Drop your identity and take on his
10. Tell him you have your wedding all planed in your head and all you are waiting for is the groom, you might even add that you believe he is the lucky guy lol.
Who will or has tried out any of these and how long did it take him to ‘disappear’?
I simply can’t wait to hear from you guys
Cheers
I have seen it happen so many times, I have read it in so many books, I have had it from so many mouths and the scary part of it is it actually works wonders. If you want to scare away your man, girls! Just go ahead and do any or all of these things listed below.
Of course there are relationships that you as a young lady know is not beneficial to you but then there are those ones you can do absolutely anything to keep or make it work out, every girl that’s 27+ definitely knows what am talking about here. If you have ever been in love then you also will understand most of the things am going to list below, they are things we do unconsciously when in love but unknown to most of us the easiest way to scare a man away.
1. Nag at every slightest opportunity you find
2. Always run yourself down by telling him nasty things about yourself, your family or your past relationships
3. ensure you ask him everyday if he still loves you or how much he loves you
4. Make him promise over and over again never to hurt you like your ex did.
5. Make crying your only way of getting through to him
6. Don’t allow him hang out with his male friends or have his usual sports session with his friends, each time he brings it up go on and go on about how you cant let him out of your sight for a min !
7. Call him incessantly, like 10 times a day
8. If you use to be very fashionable when you met, lose your fashion sense!
9. Drop your identity and take on his
10. Tell him you have your wedding all planed in your head and all you are waiting for is the groom, you might even add that you believe he is the lucky guy lol.
Who will or has tried out any of these and how long did it take him to ‘disappear’?
I simply can’t wait to hear from you guys
Cheers
Monday, December 3, 2007
FORGET THE SIMPLICITY OF IT ALL !
There is something I have been meaning to share with you all. Its something most of us take for granted, the simplicity of it alone tends to make us disregard it most times.
It is unknown to most of us a secret weapon that we can use to win the battles of life. I said the ‘battles’ of life because it can be applied in more than one area of our life, in fact it should be applied to all areas of our lives, but am going to concentrate on its application in our relationships.
Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of it all because just this one idea can change your life completely. What am I talking about?
THE POWER OF APPRECIATION
Yes, it’s the power of appreciation.
Appreciation is the act of recognizing a positive or favorable act; it is a feeling or expression of gratitude. It can also be defined as a full understanding of the meaning or importance of someone, an act or something.
Do you know that feeling you get each time you are appreciated or your effort or action is appreciated? You have to agree with me that there is always the feeling of inner happiness each time you or your action is appreciated. You can imagine what such a simple gratitude can do to your spouse or partner each time they did something nice.
Appreciation is a weapon that can be used in every area of our lives and even our love lives. A lot of people don’t realize why relationships and marriages appear to be loveless after a given period of time. Relationships needs spark to bring them back to life after appearing dead for a long time. Look, its natural that marriages or relationships that are past 6months or a year will generally appear boring, if this occurs, the easiest way to bring back the spark is to begin to appreciate your partner for the little things they do, throw them compliments at the time they least expect, show gratitude for little gestures of love from them, then sit back and watch how little appreciation brings back that newness in your relationship or marriage.
Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of this word as it’s the one word that can make a big difference in your life. My advice is that showing appreciation should not be limited to our relationships, we should always appreciate people; appreciate God, show gratitude to our parents and to everybody around us.
Do you know what a simple “Oh? Thank you” could do to that cleaner? That house help? That your mechanic? That your driver? It puts a smile on their faces, it makes them appreciate themselves and God the more, these people least expects gratitude from you, after all they are paid to do what they do, but have your taken your time to think of the positive impact this show of gratitude from you could have in their life?
Think about this, gratitude makes the world in general a better place.
It’s a new week, a bright and beautiful Monday morning, enjoy the week as I wish you the very best this new week.
Thank you all for your comments on the last post,
Ciao
It is unknown to most of us a secret weapon that we can use to win the battles of life. I said the ‘battles’ of life because it can be applied in more than one area of our life, in fact it should be applied to all areas of our lives, but am going to concentrate on its application in our relationships.
Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of it all because just this one idea can change your life completely. What am I talking about?
THE POWER OF APPRECIATION
Yes, it’s the power of appreciation.
Appreciation is the act of recognizing a positive or favorable act; it is a feeling or expression of gratitude. It can also be defined as a full understanding of the meaning or importance of someone, an act or something.
Do you know that feeling you get each time you are appreciated or your effort or action is appreciated? You have to agree with me that there is always the feeling of inner happiness each time you or your action is appreciated. You can imagine what such a simple gratitude can do to your spouse or partner each time they did something nice.
Appreciation is a weapon that can be used in every area of our lives and even our love lives. A lot of people don’t realize why relationships and marriages appear to be loveless after a given period of time. Relationships needs spark to bring them back to life after appearing dead for a long time. Look, its natural that marriages or relationships that are past 6months or a year will generally appear boring, if this occurs, the easiest way to bring back the spark is to begin to appreciate your partner for the little things they do, throw them compliments at the time they least expect, show gratitude for little gestures of love from them, then sit back and watch how little appreciation brings back that newness in your relationship or marriage.
Don’t be fooled by the simplicity of this word as it’s the one word that can make a big difference in your life. My advice is that showing appreciation should not be limited to our relationships, we should always appreciate people; appreciate God, show gratitude to our parents and to everybody around us.
Do you know what a simple “Oh? Thank you” could do to that cleaner? That house help? That your mechanic? That your driver? It puts a smile on their faces, it makes them appreciate themselves and God the more, these people least expects gratitude from you, after all they are paid to do what they do, but have your taken your time to think of the positive impact this show of gratitude from you could have in their life?
Think about this, gratitude makes the world in general a better place.
It’s a new week, a bright and beautiful Monday morning, enjoy the week as I wish you the very best this new week.
Thank you all for your comments on the last post,
Ciao
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