Common darlyn, it meant nothing……. I was just looking that’s all…….ok ! I fucked her, but it was just sex!!! Nothing more…look, I just had a fling, it didn’t mean anything really …there were no strings attached, its you am in love with darlyn.
On my way home from work on Friday, I was thinking, didn’t even know I was thinking aloud, muttering to my self all the way home. My line of thoughts was ‘can men be entirely faithful?’. Please don’t get me wrong here, not faithful in love, I know for a fact that, a man can love you faithfully, you know, staying in love with you for real.
What I mean by being faithful is, can a man maintain a sex partner for a long time without wanting to sample another especially if his partner is away for a while?
Hmmmm, all these thoughts were running riot in my head that evening. It then occurred to me that something must have triggered this tot, I flashed back to that same Friday afternoon, my gal friend had called to intimate me of her engagement/ introduction rites that is coming up during the Easter period, oh ! I was indeed happy for her. Her bf has been away abroad for almost a year now, for his masters program. It got me thinking, this guy sure loves this gal, but all these months, has he been without a woman? If nothing just to satisfy his sexual urge? I knew right there and then that I must be the biggest joker in town.
Several names has been created for this action of theirs, they call it a fling, just sex, fucking or nothing at all. Please don’t get me wrong, am not sanctioning this action of theirs, am just not being ignorant of that fact
Is it possible that my friend’s bf abroad for say, 11months has been without a woman? If No is this cheating on his gf/fiancée?
Let’s hear from you all, especially the male folks, educate us on this with all your comments please………Hugs****
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1st!!!!!!! Let me go n read.
Ms emmotions...I don't think u know what ur talking about, wut do u mean its not cheating???? R u kidding me??????? Helll to the Naaaaawww, if I catch ma man having a fling, o he had better run far far away.
How can u say that's not cheating? For Christ sakes he.s sleeping with another woman oooooooo chei.
Well Ms emmotions I hope ma bf doesn't read this post cos ill be very angry.....now ur gonna make men feel like der doin d right thing.
If men can't handle long distance relationships then they should stay the hell away from it.
You are one hell of a funny blogger what the hell do you mean that aint cheating. okay then i am schooling in england at the moment and since my boyfriend is not around if i do it then i guess it isnt cheatin what is good for the fucking goose is good for the fucking gander. Think and about it .
hahaha.....DL pls dont murder me oh !!! i pray ur boyfrd dosnt find this then, for ur own piece of mind...but really do u think this my frd's bf has been wit out a woman for like 10months? seriously
@ anons - funny right? ok,,, do u really think a man can abstain for like 11months? i mean, ny frds bf isnt shagging since 11months?
am waiting to see the uproar this posy will generate....lol
DL , a minor alteration there for ur sakes, lol ...am awaiting my death sentence from readers this time around
i tot it wise to edit the raw details i had on this post after seeing DL's comments on it, not because i didnt know what i was saying, i had to cos we ve got mail readers on this page and in the cause of educating the female folks, i dont want to encourage infidelities or cheating in relationships. my earlier post for those of uwho saw it, was very factual...kill me if u like, but remeba am a gal too and wont encourage wat i can stoamach.
DL ....lollllll pls o, kill me gently
* male
** cant encourage wat i cant stomach
Lol ehe now u've arrived. U were about 2 drive me crazy with d other post maaaan.
Well we can't be sure if he.s cheating or not u know, some men have control while others dont . There are also women who lack control as well, I've read some female blogs and seen how they cheat even when its not long distance.
So darling its both ways o.
I just updated o.
I want to see the original post. Sounds more interesting. I don't know about guys cos i'm not one, but i feel like if a girl can go for so long without sex, why can't they?
I’m sorry to say thing ms.emotions but from your post u sim to have resigned to a tot that most African women have accepted: which is, it’s a man world. Men will always cheat so the best thing to do is to turn a blind eye. Or better yet, you’ve separate cheating into class (which I guess works for you; I can respect that)
Well it doesn’t work that way. There’s a saying in Yoruba that goes; what you can’t take as a rich man you mustn’t take as a poor man. Same applies in ALL relationships. There has to be a standing rule. It doesn’t necessarily have to be spoken. No one needs to be advised to respect or value their partner by bin faithful.
Personally, kissing/groping/touching/one night stand is still cheating. Even if he’s just a bf.
Cheating is cheating. End of story.
How bout we educate the men on why women cheat?
Or how they can live with it when their women stray?
I’m just saying….
lol!
You edited the post!
why?
Controversial post like the previous one is more fun!
Put it back!
*chanting*...original post...original post...original post...
...i'm voting for the original post and restricting my commentary until i see the original...hummmph...*arms crossed, waiting*...oh, and why don't you like sororities?...hehe...not that i don't blame you sometimes...;)...
mis mapel- lmao on ur comments. just for records now, am a young gal of 24+, working in one of the new generations bank, have my b.sc economic, my ACA in view, am tall about 6ft tal, slim model like figure, hate to sound immodest, am a fine gal to say the least, now tell me why i have to put up wit a man that cheats right to my face?
wat my post is saying is this, u may not no as i dont know my bf as a cheat, but wat about the smooth rides that u cant know or tell?
think about it my dear, just for banking world, am retaining my identity, would have loved to show my pix.
cutting long story short, i take no shit from no man, u mess up to my face i kick u out and get another, am just being a realist in my post,,,,,not being in denial.
hugs dearie and tanx for ur comments
gosh ! i may not have time now to respond to al comments, but will find time to do so.
i didnt know the last post on forgiveness was controversial, just got to know from comments.
my man knows better than allow me catch him cheat or watever....all my post encourages women to have a life and be comfy in their own skin, don't u think( my newest frd, mis mapel) that no peoples wat by somethings they say? read act the bitch and u wmay understand.
like i said i was just being very practical here
U knw wut? Ms emmotions put d original 1 up. I wanna see other opinions. Ma bf n I already broke up anyway so I don't care if he sees it. Lol.
Lmaoooo @ Ms Maple...omg...she said uve seperated cheating into class....lol ma tummy. Blogville can neva be boring maaan.
Lol!
You in denial?
Did I say that? sorry if I implied it.
Still, why is it normal for men to cheat? Its statements like that that make it ok for them to cheat cos it means we believe they can’t be faithful.
Anyone is capable of bin faithful.
It’s a matter of choice.
Ms emmotions I advice that u don't describe urself as model figure o becos model figure to some peeps r skinny, flat chest n flat ass with very long legs. O n no hips too.
DL,
u'r not serious o!
lol!
Yes, men can entirely be faithful.
"...maintain a sex partner for a long time without wanting to sample another especially if his partner is away ..." It is not impossible for a man to want sample another... (afterall, red blood -that gets hot runs through his body) Yet still, 'tis possible for him to abstain.
Comon babes, not all men are pigs.
Hey Ms. emotions, i personally don't think that anyone man/woman is capable of staying faithful for ever. People have different reasons for cheating and different factors trigger cheating.
Its easy for pple to say i'll neva cheat, but i think i prefer it when pple say i'll try not to put myself in a position where i have to cheat. Men like women are capable of not putting themselves in such positions but its rare and its usually a situation where they decide that they will be celibate for a period of time which means gfs or potentials fuck buddies don't even get none.
Do i even know what i'm ranting on abt??? Its complicated.
now I want to see the original post badly...lol...cheating is cheating and hots the same when you find out...
i agree with pink lips - goes both ways, but have a couple of comments:
1. someone once told me (i forget who) that a man would rather his partner love another man but dont sleep with him; while a woman would rather her partner sleep with another, but dont love her - hence, the standard male excuse: 'it meant nothing'.
2. again, having regard to the fact that it goes both ways, i think womenfolk will live longer (by that, i mean have more peace of mind) if they dont spend all their time on male infidelity.
who am i kidding? you guys live longer than we do anyway, that's why we have so many female 'landlords' in surulere.
i will personally shoot any man that says that is not cheating!
wats qwit desparate lady evri were i go she is there throwing her 1st status at us. geez.cheatin is cheatin.sadly it isaccepted now. wat we all look at is the gravity of the cheat and if the cheatin is thrown at your face.
well.......no one knows whether d guy was faithful or not....nor even d girl(sorry to say)..wats important is dey have chosen to live life together..so wat happens DURING d marriage? can they maintain their fidelity towards each other? dats d question now. bcos dese days, dats a huge, major challenge for couples worldwide (married or dating).
hmmn this is a tough one!!!since i dont really know what sort of relationship they have....In as much as we all knwo that men cheat regardless..."its in their blood" apparently, i think ignorance is bliss..,
What you dont know would not kill you!!!
xxx
Girl..i'll be back soonest!
Cheating is cheating, regardless.... just don't get caught. If you don't get caught you did not cheat, if you get caught, then you are in for a big pot of soup (you know the type that is still boiling) - cheat soup. And it doesn't taste good... no no.
@pink lips, i dont agree with you saying no man/woman is capable of staying faithful forever. That is not true...I know living examples...my Dad is one and i ope to be when i get married.
Ms.Emmotions,I believe a MAN can control his sex urges if he really wants to. Those that say it isn’t possible are just trying to justify their indiscipline.
my dear, if he's faithful, u thank God. if he's not, hmm. my own is, i won't check on u, but pls don't give me that respect & keep ur escapades from my knowledge. i won't cheat on u, so please don't cheat on me... but should u ever, by mistake or delibrate, may i never find out
am just seeing the commotion dis issue is causing & wonder y. abeg make una no chop ms. emmotions, na only her opinion she put out. u can either agree with it or not. different pple have diff ways that they handle conflicts. if she'd chosen dat living her life without constantly being paranoid dat her man is cheating, all well & fine. i've seen women who hound their men all n d name of catching them at their game, does that make sense. only a mean man who has no regard 4 u would cheat on u 2 ur face. all d others, weda he does or not, u could never find out 4 sure, so y kill urself over it!!!! ms. emmotion, abeg i dig ur style. u may publish d original script or not, it matters not. this is a very private issue. believe me, most of those who rant & rave abt killing d man dat cheats on them will do ABSOLUTELY NOTHING when d situation actually presents itself.
sorry am returning to this, but dis matter dey vex me. i've lots of single friends & a few married friends, but one thing i know is dat single people too make mouth! they will do this, they will do dat. fa fa fa foul, according to zebrudaya. every wise knows of d advice 'pick ur fight'. For heaven's sake, see where forgiving Bill has taken Hillary! Do u imagine a divorced woman wld have hope of contesting 4 presidental post??? What abt Jackie O! These women's men cheated on them 2 d point even d entire USA knew about it! Did they kill themselves. This goes to men too who swear any woman that cheats on them is gone! Lie lie. there's been many men who'd looked d other way, & till d end of times, they'd always be such men. Besides, do u think being cheated on is d worse of sins??? u aint seen nothing then! my friend's aunty could swear her husband never looks at other women, but what agony dat man subjects her too eh, she dey wish he was cheating but still found ways to be a 'good' husband!
i think everyman has a fantasy of doin the nasty with another woman, but not everyman goes out to cheat....that statement makes me feel like my own spin doctor.
unnaked just lays it bare as men to think...and maybe some women. but total crap.
He's cheating, and if she accepts it, he will do it time and time again.
Some men can stay faithful. Just as some women can Never stay faithful..
There are good men out there. most of them know GOD
@ Princesca, don't we all think our daddies r faithful??? Abi you are always under his bed or follow him arnd?? No disrespect meant.
i do agree that men are able to have sex without any emotional attachment thus can easily claim to love one and sample another without guilt.
the problem lies with the females,
the one he claims to love, who will accept his crap and the one who opened her legs for one whose heart belong to another.
by Gods grace he has been faithful!!
cheating is cheating-it is one of the few things that is straight fwd black and white!!
IT'S CHEATING OHHH!!!! I can't give a guy's perspective but when my boyfriend is filling up another girl, touching her provocatively, kissing her, sleeping with her....fuck, I don't care if his dick is threatening to break off, his ass is CHEATING!!!
Damn!
Interesting post and comments too.
I thought Ms E was asking for guys comments. I can't even find one?!
I'm a guy. I have a fantastic girl that I want to spend the rest of my life with. I work in PH, she works in Lagos. Currently, I'm out of Naija, working for a few months.
I havent seen her for a couple of months now, and more to come.
If I sleep with another girl, I'm cheating. No doubt.
Is it difficult to abstain? No doubt, yes.
Can I have a 'friend with benefits'? Hmm.
Truth is, its dificult. So, I try to avoid complex situations. What does this mean? No parties/clubs/groove etc? Hell no.
All I simply do is, imagine my reaction (UNCONTROLLED RAGE) at seeing her in another man's arms, then equate that to her reaction at seeing me in another woman's arm. That's painful enough.
So, have I ever cheated? Yes I have. Will it happen again? Nope. Why, because a brief sexual encounter can end a lifetime of happiness. Any fool knows that.
If a woman seduces me..... That's a different matter oh. I no be firewood.
But Solomon(king) says to jump out of the window when the harlot comes to my house.
Easy for him to say, after handling 1000 babes :P
dang sometimes we give men too much power..wait, so girls dont get tempted or bored when they are in a relationship? you think I cant get wet when that ridculously looking guy is toasting me and all i can think of is jumping his bones?...my dear leave oh..it goes both ways
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